Communicating with Kids

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The Skills

What You Will Learn on this Workshop

Teachers spend a large percentage of their time in the classroom on inter-personal communications and managing relationships. An understanding of the basic principles and skills of effective communication can help reduce the time spent on discipline and managing behaviour, and free up time for teaching and learning. The skills taught in this workshop are easy to understand and simple to put into practice in the classroom.
Teacher or Friend?
We can all probably remember teachers who were distant figures, staying completely in the role of 'teacher', and also those who were eager to be 'friends', but lacked authority. We examine the importance of both roles and how they support eachother; how to develop a strong human relationship while at the same time exercising a clear authority as 'teacher'. Both aspects of the relationship are emphasised throughout the programme.

Problem Behaviour

We look at a clear definition of the term 'behaviour' as the basis on which to understand what we are dealing with, and examine our individual understanding of 'acceptable' and 'unacceptable' behaviour. When behaviour is a 'problem' we clarify whose problem it is, the teacher's or the child's; and how this understanding enables us to use the most effective skills to challenge it. 

Children's Feelings

Children bring problems with them into the classroom, and experience frustrations and worries at school which can lead to strong feelings that interfere with their learning. We look at conventional methods of handling children's feelings which are ineffective, or even make things worse, and then examine simple alternative approaches which help children to manage their feelings, without indulging them.

The Teacher's Authority
We examine the different meanings of the word 'authority' and define the kind of authority a teacher has in the classroom, clarifying the effectiveness of this compared to the extremes of an authoritarian approach on the one hand and a lack of authority on the other. Within this framework, we look at typical language, and more effective ways of communicating from a place of legitimate authority. We practice language skills covering the different situations a teacher may face, including managing day-to-day routines, classroom discipline, and challenging behaviour.

Creating Your Classroom Culture
Creating the 'culture' of the class is the teacher's job, but we also want to get the children on board in taking their share of the responsibility. We examine the most effective ways of fostering a sense of community , and sharing values such as friendliness, respect, politeness and safety.


Skills

Defining behaviour

Effective v ineffective praise

Alternatives to 'labelling'

Understanding 'ownership' of problems

Acknowledging feelings without indulging them

Listening skills and when to use them

The Helping Continuum

Defining true authority

Giving clear information

Clear direct instructions

Disengaging

Expressing trust and clear expectations

Statements of intent

Statements of self-respect

Understanding primary feelings

Managing anger


I-language

Declarative I-messages
 
Confrontive I-messages

The language of inclusion

Clear expression of needs

Needs v solutions

Preventive messages

Stepping outside the drama

Painting the picture

Making clear deals

Fostering politeness and respect

Self-disclosure

Shared goals

The language of teamwork
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